Respect Rape Victims Wish to Marry Rapist: Was It Just a Statement or a Thought?

Posted: March 8, 2010 in News, Women
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Nobody has a choice but to respect an individual’s right to choose his/her own life especially if the individual is an adult and his/her decisions are legally correct. But had legally correct things been always right, there wouldn’t have been provision for any amendment. Has CJI given a thought on how wish of rape victim to marry rapist impacts herself and the society as a whole and in first place, what makes her wish so? What does it convey to a rapist and prospective rapists?

In most cases rape victim is under tremendous family and societal pressure. Also, due to social conditioning, a female always find herself in need of a male support to feel secure. She depends and relies on men to give herself an identity. With stigmas attached to marring a rape victim, she feels that if she doesn’t take perpetrator of her dignity as her spouse, no body else will accept her either. Even society encourages this thought process. But when a person of CJI stature supports such measures in the name of a victim’s wish, one sits and wonders the purpose of marriages. What sort of marriage will it be? Does the victim expect respect from her perpetrator in this marriage or will it just be another marriage of convenience with only difference being that the disrespect starts even before marriage and there’s no hope? Victim thus has to build an illusionary world to remain at peace where she ignores what happens to her. And most of the times she turns blind even when the same rapist victimizes others. Doesn’t this imply that if a man is unmarried, he can easily take a chance to rape, as later he can offer to marry his victim and escape the punishment? It’s only after getting married that he must be careful about his moves and save himself from getting caught as bigamy too is a crime.

I don’t know how casually or how seriously people take this crime. But I am sure that someone who does this is a man with distorted vision and attitude towards women. It’s not just a crime in legal terms; it disfigures the threads of any civil society. Only point that I can think of in favour of such marriages is change of heart of tormentor. So, does that mean that all other culprits too must be set free and we must wait for change in their hearts too? It sounds great and ideal. But till we get such dream world, try to think about the implication of your thoughts before advocating it.

Child Marriage, Female Infanticide or Sati was prevalent and once legally unchallenged. Though less frequent now, socially they still exist. But at least we aren’t accepting them and trying to work towards eradicating them. Then why instead of punishing a rapist, we are finding ways to save him in the name of victim’s welfare. On one hand we declare forced intercourse even in marriage as rape then what confuses us to declare a rapist as one’s husband?

All he deserves is punishment. All she needs is confidence to live her life with dignity.

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