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Reproducing a conversation on whether there is need to check these sites. No edition is done, simple copy-paste 🙂

Today read an article on pornography sites. (Freedom that must have limits in newspaper, “The Hindu”). Sexual freedom and erotica are good things. So why were these sites didn’t seem fine? After long I realized what exactly was uncomfortable about these sites. What they are serving is sexual violence, child abuse, encouragement of posting real life abuses of victimization and off-guard individuals. In short it is serving counter-eroticism. Violence and abuse can never be erotic and rather than bringing sexual freedom, they bring sexual oppression that reflects on mindset of people who consider these kind of oppression as an act of pleasure.

MG (A friend):-
It may be one perspective, but BDSM is very acceptable and practiced by many. BDSM brings newness to the concept of erotica and is definitely more vibrant. It’s just that many people fear change and view BDSM as violent or heinous. However I agree that pedophilia and real-life abuse/victimization is unacceptable. But “so-called” violence in form of BDSM is a very different concept, and I see no point in opposing it.

BDSM- Referred Wikipedia to know the term. I realize that this kind of role playing can be erotic to some. That’s why I said I was confused earlier about the discomforting factor. Discomfort comes in the fact that many irresponsible people, rather than finding a willing partner practice this role-playing with people who they could dominate and find pleasure (I prefer to call it sadistic pleasure) in the real resistance. They see it just an extension of BDSM. Nothing is good or bad in itself. But irresponsibility is too prevalent to be overlooked.
We check what influence something might have on our children. In similar way, what a society is being served in general has to be censured at times just because many in this society are not mature enough to understand the piece of knowledge/ information/ whatever. Here lies my agreement in checking this sexual freedom. (I didn’t say banning, but checking of free availability and yes complete ban on encouragement to posting of real life abuses and catching someone unaware and child abuse). It’s good to see that you put your thoughts across on the issue as most avoid talking about it.

I completely agree with the fact that real life/child/unaware abuse are not at all acceptable. But I respectfully differ that BDSM is even remotely connected to sadistic pleasure. Uninformed and half-knowledged people have ruined the beautiful art form of BDSM and degraded it. I cant explain to you, but I can assure you that people associate violence and sadism with BDSM, but it is completely different.
Coming to the main issue, ban on pornography (I prefer to call it intimate art form) is also not justified. Our Indian culture was rich with erotica. The cave carvings of different love positions, the ultimate love making book KS, various exotic dance forms (lost over the period). We even had Deity for it-Kamadeva and beautiful representation of Shiva in form of Lingam called ShivaLinga. History apart, it is an art form, be it in multimedia format or print format or even in literature format. While restriction of such content can be ensured by making laws so that age inappropriate audience does not have access to it, there is no need to completely ban it. It is a form of entertainment nonetheless. People might say it is morally wrong, while disagreeing witg this statement, I would like to ask such people what is morality? Can Indians (Majority) have any right to talk about morality given the present state? Where majority of society is drenched in ancient rigid patriarchal system, I believe, morality (as I understand) has been long lost in Indian Society. Where the P.M. makes a statement that legalizing same-sex marriage in Norway is to be looked down and a matter of shame, in a nation where there is a long long history and culture of homosexuality from the times of Mahabharat and even before.
Long story short, erotica is not to be looked down upon or considered to be a sin, and there is no need to criminalise it.

My second line says “Sexual freedom and erotica are good things”. I believe that and that’s why I was confused on why pornography has to be banned. And pornography isn’t a derogatory word at all in itself. No where I put my personal likes or dislikes. But I agreed on restricted access as you yourself have asked for. Refer last bracketed statement in my previous comment “(I didn’t say banning, but checking of free availability and yes complete ban on encouragement to posting of real life abuses and catching someone unaware and child abuse)”. Please read what I wrote again. I am sure you overlooked many things and assumed many others. Else you wouldn’t have find the need to quote history and present situation. In fact you too in your comment are agreeing to restricted access of these material. Ignorant mind finding distortion is most likely and hence I favoured this restriction. Not that it has to do something with morals.

I had read your status update in detail. I think u misunderstood me. I was not referring to you, I was just putting my point, which fortunately, is almost similiar to ur viewpoint. That is why I have used the word “people”. All I was doing was just adding to what you already said. I really appreciate that you started this discussion, which many people consider taboo, and I thank you for having an open mind and a mature view. People supporting the ban are just bunch of immature ill-informed people.

I included myself in people . I was wondering though that how you are saying the same thing while overlooking what I already said. Now that confusion rests. But I would add that even the people who are asking for ban aren’t necessarily immature ill-informed just because we don’t agree with them. May be they feel that restriction many times turns out to be no check and that’s why they are asking for complete ban. And practically speaking, ideally what should be the case is many times hard to implement. With lack of infrastructure to keep check (as it needs mature and responsible administration and we are right now in a transient phase as a society. Please don’t read it as my displeasure with administration as they too think in a way we all in general think.), these people must have seen the ease in implementing complete ban.

While I mostly agree with you, I would like to point out that pragmatism was initially complimentary to idealism. Whenever achieving idealism seemed “Impossible”, pragmatism was used as a last resort. Unfortunately because of mass procrastination, pragmatism has become the first approach and no effort to achieve idealism, even closer to idealism, is being made. That is exactly the rationale behind the use of word “immature ill-informed”. Having studied software engineering, I disagree that keeping control is not possible. Government has complete control over ISP and restriced access is not only possible, but is also quite simple. Resorting to pragmatism without ever attempting to come near to idealism, is uncalled for. The access over television and print media is relatively quite easy vis a vis internet (which is also very simple)

I completely endorse what you say . It’s a sad fact that selective frenzy plays defining role in governance and daily conduct of our social life.



Posted: December 20, 2012 in Poems
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तेरे लिए जो शिकार है
देख, वो तुझसे शर्मसार है
इक नज़र उठा के देख ले
तू ना फिर कभी नज़र उठाएगा
माना सुला रखा है तूने रूह को
फिर भी बहुत पछतायेगा

क्या सज़ा तुझे मुहैया करूँ
अकेला तू कहाँ गुनहगार है
टुकड़ों में जब ये ज़ुल्म था
छुप कर जब था हो रहा
मैं भी तो तब चुप रहा
मैं भी तो ये किस्सा था बस पढ़ रहा
आज जब बर्बर हुआ
तो कोफ़्त है, हाहाकार है
गुस्सा भी टुकड़ों ही में बंट गया
अब तो बस हम बिलख रहे
नहीं जानते क्या करें
बातों में भी तो कुछ रखा नहीं

क्या जानता है तूने क्या किया
इंसानों में ही देख तूने
इंसानियत का खौफ उतार दिया
उसका जो हुआ खौफनाक था
तूने खुद को भी तो हैवान बना लिया
हम सब में था जो छुपा हुआ
उस शैतान को खुद में बसा लिया

ना रहम की तू उम्मीद कर
वो तूने ही तो क़त्ल कर दिया
ना कद्र तू उसकी कर सका
ज़िन्दगी तूने जब दफ़्न की
तडपती रही होगी वो
जब बिलखना उसका सिसकी बना
सिसकियाँ भी तूने घोंट दी
सांस मौत करके छुप गया
ढूंडा है जब तुझे लोगों ने
तू आज सज़ा भी पायेगा
दरिन्दगी ने देख तेरी
हर इंसान को वहशी बना दिया

क्या कहूं मैं तेरी दलील में, देखती हूँ बस यही
कल एक बार फिर से आएगा
जब भूल कर तुझे सभी, किस्सा नया उठाएंगे
उंगलियाँ उठेंगी फिर, लेकिन गुनाहगार बदल जायेगा
हर नयी सुबह को पहली काली रात मिटायेंगे

कहाँ है वो ज़िन्दगी जिसको तूने मौत दी
मिलने को उस ज़िन्दगी से, है चाह पर दिल है कुछ बेज़ार भी
क्या कोई उसको अब सहलाता है या वो बनी मज़ार है
तुझको सज़ा देने में उसको ही मैंने भुला दिया
खौफ जो तूने दिए उनको अब मिटाना है

I hand over little goodies to my child’s school bus driver/conductor and convince myself that I am doing it out of generosity. That bus waits if my kid is little late but refuses to do so for other kids.

If my gesture was out of generosity, why does this generosity is showered only for those who can favour me? What my child will learn from this?

He’ll see no harm in bribing as it’ll be an act to seek favours for him and this is what he has learnt since childhood.

When somebody else does similar things and we are disfavoured, we complain of CORRUPTION.

P.S.:- There are very little things that provides base of our next generation. Children learn what we practice. Mould your actions according to what kind of future generation you wish to see.

My Perception of Policing in a Democracy

Posted: November 16, 2010 in Society

Police Department is chiefly established for law enforcement and crime prevention and detection. It is authorized to maintain the peace, safety, and order of the community. But as awareness towards one’s right in today’s democratic set-up is enhancing, traditional form of policing is creating public-police friction. Democracies advocate for welfare state and policing too needs to realign itself on the same principal to gain trust and work efficiently through inclusiveness as people’s apathy is proved to be a big deterrent in effective policing.

There is lack of understanding of law in public that many times become a reason to doubt law enforcement agencies but this mistrust has its root in real experiences too. Police is vested with power to discharge their duty effectively. But this power is misused much often to benefit some or to bully or simply to soothe bruised egos. This misuse increases in proportion to lack of awareness and poverty. We all are equal before law but this proposition becomes farcical the way these laws are enforced. Uniformity of approach takes backseat quite many times, which gives an impression that police is for powerful only. The whole setup is such that it seems hard to believe that there could be an honest cop. These honest cops both get demoralised after some time and accept the system as it is or they become inert in discharging their duty so that they save themselves the agony of being corrupt. In either case indifference grows within the force.

Policing is not just another job. Along with it comes a responsibility. In a democratic setup, it gives opportunity to serve the community and in the time of crisis it brings much appreciation too from the people. Police is like a guardian people look up to, to feel secure. In usual, normal circumstances policing job is still tougher as this is the time when their work is not much visible and they are subject to criticism. But as in a family, we expect much from our guardians and their little indifference brings displeasure within, so does happen with police. And when guardian favours the strong and flays the weak, fear follows giving rise to discontent and anarchy is the general consequence.

Crimes and discrepancies in a society can’t be done away with but policing needs to be such that it instils fear in wrong-doer and faith in good citizens. It should be inclusive and uniform for all in its performance of duty and deterrent yet reformative for criminals.

Many of these positive changes that are conducive to present state have been brought in police force but these need much swiftness. In our democracy rather than policing I would like to witness community-policing in near future.

P.S.: It’s one of my essay-submission!!!

Affluent Streets

Posted: August 7, 2010 in News, Society
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Cap the number of rickshaws as they choke the city roads. It is so difficult to manoeuvre while driving my car. I pay the road tax and so I deserve to have more space. Lesser rickshaw means more people will be on foot. This way we can cultivate healthier lifestyle. It’s healthy for me too but I can afford to go to health clubs. For that reason too I must have faster roads so that I can have more time to spend in these clubs. Lesser rickshaws results in lesser rickshaw-wallahs, that in turn results in lesser slums. I’ve servant quarter in my apartment as I don’t like places that ruin the landscape of the city. If you can’t afford city life, you must stay away from it. You can come and visit once in a while as a tourist. But leave these city roads for those who have forgotten that they are affluent only in comparative terms.

In your absence they may realize that your humbleness is so important to nurture their affluent egos!!!

P.S.: Supreme Court lashed out at Civic agency in Delhi for targeting poor by capping number of rickshaws while growth of motor vehicles remains unchecked. Logical observation I must acknowledge.

Our Prime Minister who is an expert in Finance and our Finance Minister who isn’t as adept in finance pray for good monsoon so that inflation problem can be restrained. Instead of that they can opt for cloud seeding and then pray for votes to shower!

Coming to population control problem, all current measures to curb it needs much persuasion and it’s difficult to convince people about it. Many of those who opt for small family are opting for gender specific population control. We are expert in providing reservations and we must use this expertise in controlling population. In this case women must be occupied with work in every field so that they don’t have much time for kids-generation. To save their leaves they will desist from abortions too. Also, since everything will come in office record, they will desist gender-selective abortions to much extent. A perfect way for population control without annoying anyone and generating votes by providing reservation!

And soon India will be a developed country!!!

Sounds bitter as truth always does. But think of it and you will see the reality behind.

She has to be a prostitute at times, at others she becomes a beggar and she is an eternal prisoner. Census merely has recognized this truth of our society and clubbed “housewives” with all these three under economically non-productive category. Are we ashamed of this prevalent fact???

P.S.: This is about all, including “those housewives” (there are many who are very strong individuals and I am excluding them. And by strong I certainly don’t mean arrogant and ill-tempered!), who are prisoners of their own follies. They also want other women to fall into the same pattern. And people around aren’t too keen to break their shackles.